To offer this kindness to others, we first have to learn to be kind toward ourselves. Then we can approach others and extend that same kindness to them. Again, wanting to help others doesn’t mean we have the goal of saving them, in the sense of setting them on the “right course” according to our view. If there’s any way we can really save someone, being genuine and kind is probably the only way. You’re not going to save people by pushing them toward a goal you have in mind for them.